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What Really Matters in Education: Compassion

By Carol Lach 鈥 August 14, 2013 3 min read
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The following is based on a speech the author gave upon her retirement from the Massachusetts education department in March.

As educators, our world was upended by the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary School late last year. Our response as a nation ranged from proposing gun legislation so nothing like it would ever happen again to dismissing the event as another terrible act of a disturbed child鈥攐ne with Asperger鈥檚, or from a broken home, or suffering some terrible undefined problem.

Closer to home, in 2007, a 16-year-old at Lincoln-Sudbury High School (in Massachusetts) stabbed another student to death. The assailant was later found guilty of first-degree murder in the case, meaning blame fell totally on him, and the high school鈥檚 reputation wasn鈥檛 tarnished. His lawyer said the young man had suffered a lifetime of harassment and bullying because of his mental illness, which caused him to be fearful and anxious. According to The Boston Globe, as a grade-schooler that his three wishes were to win a million dollars, have a lifetime supply of junk food, and to stop being bullied.

So why am I telling you this? Because ...

滨迟鈥檚 not about guns. 滨迟鈥檚 not about Asperger鈥檚. 滨迟鈥檚 not about bullying. 滨迟鈥檚 not about legislation. You can鈥檛 legislate compassion.

What it鈥檚 really about is student support, community, and caring.

滨迟鈥檚 <i>not</i> about guns. 滨迟鈥檚 <i>not</i> about Asperger鈥檚. 滨迟鈥檚 <i>not</i> about bullying. 滨迟鈥檚 <i>not</i> about legislation. ... What it鈥檚 really about is student support, community, and caring.鈥

More than 40 years ago, one of my students at Carver Junior High School in Mississippi asked me, 鈥淲hy should I care about your math if you don鈥檛 care about me?鈥

I gave him some lame response, I鈥檓 sure, but this question has stayed with me all these years.

鈥淲hy should I care about your math if you don鈥檛 care about me?鈥 滨迟鈥檚 even more important today. We鈥檝e become so far removed from the kids with legislation, policies, data, grades, improvement plans, assessments, professional development, evaluations, and accountability that we have little time to really care about the kids, to even hear the question.

While I was at the state education department, I had the privilege of getting to spend a full day at Charlotte Murkland Elementary School in Lowell, Mass., and to get to know the school鈥檚 leadership team. Why do you think this school is a model of a successful turnaround? Its story is about getting 鈥渢he right people on the bus,鈥 as Jim Collins says in his book . This team looked at the root causes of its failures, created community, and developed a culture where achievement and effort are recognized and applauded. 滨迟鈥檚 a place where kids who need help get it, where families who need food get it (180 bags of groceries are picked up every week). 滨迟鈥檚 a place where every child is given the opportunity to rise above the survival and safety levels on and to be part of a community, to gain self-esteem and more.

We continue to look at symptoms of failure, continue to evaluate and blame teachers, and continue to look for silver bullets disguised as innovative approaches. Are we dissecting and following the Murkland Elementary model and other examples of success? Are we identifying the root causes of poor performance and then working to change conditions that truly address the issues our students face? Are we following the lead of our vocational-technical schools in helping kids find a niche, success at something, a career that will give them a future, that will motivate them to learn, to finish high school and go beyond?

We need the right people on the bus, the right people in the right seats on the bus. We need to keep the students at the center of our work. We need to remember that education is not a one-size-fits-all product. While standards and expectations are important, we need to remember that not all students will be successful with four years of high school math. If I had been required to achieve similar athletic standards in physical education for four years in high school, I never would have graduated. If I hadn鈥檛 had teachers who dealt with the bullies and a sister who listened and understood me, I don鈥檛 know where I鈥檇 be today.

As you continue your work, please don鈥檛 lose sight of the students. Look for ways to help streamline policies and regulations so school staff members have time to encourage their students鈥 talents, and find ways to provide those students support, to be mentors, and to have the time to care.

A version of this article appeared in the August 28, 2013 edition of 91直播 as What Really Matters in Education: Compassion

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